WHEN IS IT TIME?
Picture this… You’re listening to music while you wait for a bus when someone approaches you to ask for directions. You stop your music and oblige but it quickly becomes clear that they wish to start up a conversation. Fair enough. Many people enjoy conversing with strangers. You never know who you will meet.
But what happens when you aren’t in the mood to talk. You contribute little and hope for an awkward silence long enough to unpause your music. But how long should you wait? You know the second you restart your music the person will hear it and realize you no longer wish to speak to them. It’s a social signal that the conversation is over. You don’t want to be rude do you?
… Do you?
How about another scenario involving friends. You’re at work and it’s the end of the day. You’ve finally found time to click the link to that hilarious YouTube video your friend emailed you. The second you hit play a coworker virtually appears in your cubicle and hovers over your shoulder. Even though you respect and like this person, he/she is seemingly oblivious that you’re occupied and chats you up regardless. After a few moments it becomes clear that you won’t be able to focus on the video so you pause it.
This is your coworker after all so you chat and hear them out. It’s the end of the day so this person usually complains about a client, the boss or the social challenges that await after 5pm. Finally, the conversation ends but this person doesn’t leave. At which point do you unpause your video? How much time must pass?
I suppose the quick fix is to invite them to watch it with you but let’s face it, they’ve seen it already.
Yet another, more personal, scenario. After hours of hard work, you’re finally going to reach level 32. The sweaty Xbox controller rests in your hands. It’s time to finally solve that impossible puzzle or beat a tough boss. Except your girlfriend enters the room and her beautiful smile forces… The Pause.
It doesn’t matter what gender you are. If your significant other enters the room you have to pause your game. It’s in the guidebook. You do everything possible to hide the fact that all you want to do is unpause your game and finish the mission. The achievement or trophy is within your grasp. Pausing the game too long takes you out of the zone. Your character could die. The lives of the fictional characters you are tasked to save are in jeopardy!
In your mind you scream:
“Hurry up and get to the point!”
But your expression says:
“I’m so lucky to have you.”
Finally, the conversation ends but this encounter comes with a twist nearly 100% of the time. You unpause your game and for 10 seconds you advance… Until the conversation begins again… Pause.
“Look at the TV! You’re doing this on purpose!”
That’s what you’d like to say but you can’t. It isn’t fair and it’s rude to choose a video game over that special someone. So you listen, you contribute and your relationship grows…
Then silence returns to the room. He/She picks up a magazine and reads.
Is it time to unpause?






