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Pausing Etiquette

February 15th, 2012 | Posted by peopletales in People Tales - (0 Comments)

WHEN IS IT TIME?

Picture this…  You’re listening to music while you wait for a bus when someone approaches you to ask for directions.  You stop your music and oblige but it quickly becomes clear that they wish to start up a conversation.  Fair enough.  Many people enjoy conversing with strangers.  You never know who you will meet.

But what happens when you aren’t in the mood to talk.  You contribute little and hope for an awkward silence long enough to unpause your music.  But how long should you wait?  You know the second you restart your music the person will hear it and realize you no longer wish to speak to them.  It’s a social signal that the conversation is over.  You don’t want to be rude do you?

…  Do you?

How about another scenario involving friends.  You’re at work and it’s the end of the day.  You’ve finally found time to click the link to that hilarious YouTube video your friend emailed you.  The second you hit play a coworker virtually appears in your cubicle and hovers over your shoulder.  Even though you respect and like this person, he/she is seemingly oblivious that you’re occupied and chats you up regardless.  After a few moments it becomes clear that you won’t be able to focus on the video so you pause it.

This is your coworker after all so you chat and hear them out.  It’s the end of the day so this person usually complains about a client, the boss or the social challenges that await after 5pm.  Finally, the conversation ends but this person doesn’t leave.  At which point do you unpause your video? How much time must pass?

I suppose the quick fix is to invite them to watch it with you but let’s face it, they’ve seen it already.

Yet another, more personal, scenario.  After hours of hard work, you’re finally going to reach level 32.  The sweaty Xbox controller rests in your hands.  It’s time to finally solve that impossible puzzle or beat a tough boss.  Except your girlfriend enters the room and her beautiful smile forces…  The Pause.

It doesn’t matter what gender you are.  If your significant other enters the room you have to pause your game.  It’s in the guidebook.  You do everything possible to hide the fact that all you want to do is unpause your game and finish the mission.  The achievement or trophy is within your grasp.  Pausing the game too long takes you out of the zone.  Your character could die.  The lives of the fictional characters you are tasked to save are in jeopardy!

In your mind you scream:

“Hurry up and get to the point!”

But your expression says:

“I’m so lucky to have you.”

Finally, the conversation ends but this encounter comes with a twist nearly 100% of the time.  You unpause your game and for 10 seconds you advance…  Until the conversation begins again…  Pause.

“Look at the TV!  You’re doing this on purpose!”

That’s what you’d like to say but you can’t.  It isn’t fair and it’s rude to choose a video game over that special someone.  So you listen, you contribute and your relationship grows…

Then silence returns to the room.  He/She picks up a magazine and reads.

Is it time to unpause?

We’ve all seen it before.

You’re in a public place and someone is singing along to their music.  When I encounter with one of these courageous folks I’m always baffled by the songs they choose.  97% of the time, it’s a song I’ve never heard before.  I’ve always thought that was strange but, then again, I’m not exactly a musical encyclopedia.

There are two types of Public Singers out there.  Those who hum along quietly and those who fully perform without a care in the world.  It’s important to note that I’m not talking about people who are purposefully performing like a street musician.  I’m talking about the people who sit at the back of the bus with their headphones on.

What fascinates me is the motivation behind their need to sing in public.  Are they trying to introduce their favorites to the people around them?  Are they trying to become the next public transit idol?  Or are they completely oblivious that other people can hear them?  Better still, are they aware that people can hear them and they just don’t care?

Personally, I don’t really care unless it’s obnoxiously loud.

It’s an interesting question to ask when developing a fictional character.  Would this person sing in public?  What do they think about people who sing in public?

I think it takes a lot of guts to belt out notes in front of strangers.  The thing is, most of the time people would rather endure the singing rather than ask someone to stop.  Public singing usually goes on completely uninterrupted.

What if they are talented singers?  Do you think anyone ever scored an album deal while singing a Mariah Carey song on the subway?  Do you think that’s what these public singers are thinking about while they perform?

I think I’d feel bad if someone actually tapped a singer on the shoulder and told them they sucked.  Which leads to another question about your newest character.  Would they just sit back and listen regardless of how annoying it is?  Would they be deliberately rude?  Would they compliment the singer if he/she was good?

What if your character has music connections or even a producer?

Do you sing in public?

The Neighbor War: Chapter 1 The Basement Apartment

CHAPTER 1

It was the first time I was on my own and I loved it.  I suppose most of my enthusiasm was focused on the fact that I truly felt like an adult after years of roommates.  It was a basement apartment with two bedrooms, a decent sized living room and dining room.  The kitchen left a lot to be desired but I didn’t care.  I decided where to put things.  Plates were placed in a certain cupboard because I wanted them to be there.

I spent a lot of time pondering the perfect configuration of furniture in my rooms.  I spent even more time admiring the layouts once I completed them.  The rent was reasonable, it was easy to get to work and I had friends in the apartment next door.  Everything was perfect…

Except for… them…

I heard them thumping above me several times but I let them off the hook by blaming the building’s age.  It wasn’t until one awful morning about a month after I moved in that I realized they were completely inconsiderate…

It was 7am and I got home from work a few hours earlier.  I was startled out of my peaceful sleep by the loudest music I’ve ever heard through a ceiling.  You always hope it won’t last long but it always does.  Especially if you’re overly tired and/or sick.  In this instance, it lasted almost 2 hours!  I eventually had to sleep on the couch in the living room to escape the constant thumping.  My neighbors sucked.

It was a single mother who was in her mid thirties even though she looked like she was about to celebrate her 52nd birthday.  She had a teenage son with vision problems who was rarely seen outside their apartment.  Like his mother, the young man looked a lot older than he was. My best guess was 15 or 16 but I swear to you I thought they were a couple when I first saw them.  You would believe me if you saw these people.

There is a formula to measure people’s ignorance when playing loud music.  A way of checking if someone is a complete moron or completely oblivious to their impact on others.

THE LOUD MUSIC VS ANNOYANCE FORMULA

Music Volume * (Length of music + Type of music) = Total Annoyance

10 Minutes = It’s not that bad

20 Minutes = This isn’t happening… Is it?

30 Minutes = Who the f&#@ are these people?

1 Hour+ = *

In this case, the star (*) represents the overall tolerance level of the individual.  Everyone has their limits.  I happen to be a patient person so I let it slide…  They didn’t blast music in the morning often but when they did, it took every ounce of restraint I had to avoid breaking my hand on the ceiling.

The lesson to anyone who thinks nobody hears the music below is simple.  We can hear it!  Always assume we can hear your music.  Especially if you keep the sub woofer on the floor.

The war had begun…

The Tale of the Interrupted Dream

December 19th, 2011 | Posted by peopletales in People Tales - (0 Comments)

There I was…

In the middle of the ocean at dawn with half a dozen other people.  I couldn’t see their faces but we were all looking at the same thing.  In the distance, there was a massive city floating on top of the waves.  It was beautiful.  With no land in sight, that city was our only chance to escape the water.  The swim was going to be treacherous but that’s not what concerned me.  What concerned me was the gigantic storm cloud approaching the city.

Within a few minutes, the wind picked up and we were fighting huge waves in addition to muscle fatigue.  It was horrible.  The moment we got close to the city, another wave would push us miles away.  Finally, we realized that we would never reach the city and people around me began to accept their watery fate.  Just then, things got even worse.

The storm had worsened and the size of the waves increased exponentially.  Suddenly,  a gigantic tidal wave hit the city sending debris everywhere.  It caused multiple explosions and we found ourselves dodging huge chunks of metal.  I watched as a red hot metal door sank into the abyss.  It’s red glow fading as it cooled.  But there was another light underneath me.  It took me a moment to realize what was different about that faint yellow glow.  It wasn’t sinking.  It was coming to the surface.  A ship!

It erupted from below like a whale and we quickly swam towards it.  I had never seen anything like it.  It was completely black at first but quickly turned bright white as if someone turned off a shield of some type.  We reached the back of the vessel and pounded on the door.  There was no answer.  Someone had to be driving the vehicle.  I looked down and spotted a small console.  I pushed a button and spoke into a tiny speaker.

“We’re the last survivors please let us in.”

The outer door opened immediately.  We watched as two sets of hands lifted up the main gate behind the outer door.  One set of hands was human.  The other set was not.

And then I woke up…

How many screenplay ideas have you banked thanks to amazing and suspenseful dreams? 

I tried to ‘get the dream back’ by falling asleep but I couldn’t.  That never works…

I think part of the dream was caused by the most recent Battleship trailer.

The Tale of the Two Foxes

December 12th, 2011 | Posted by peopletales in Guest Tales | People Tales - (0 Comments)

This is a guest post by Bill McKinnon

Author’s Note: This is not a story of my sister Diane’s life nor a description of the loss we all experienced at her passing.  Diane’s life is best held in everyone’s memory to be recalled and celebrated at our will.  This is the story of a series of events, which seems to have brought comfort to our family.

At 8:30 P.M, February 7, 1997 the phone rang at our home in Sudbury.  Not an unusual occurrence, but on this occasion I answered with great trepidation.   I had talked to my sister Arlene earlier that evening and was told that our sister Diane, was not doing very well.  She had been fighting cancer for nearly a year and it appeared that the cancer was winning.  I picked up the phone in the dining room and my wife Rose picked up the portable in the living room.  It was Arlene and, in her gentle way, she told us that Diane had passed on.

There I was, standing in our dining room at the patio doors looking out onto our back yard.  We had a great deal of snow that year and a recent snowfall had left the yard pure white with only the yard fence and the deck railings visible above the blanket of blue white snow.  Our conversation was at the point where the tragedy of our loss was just beginning to sink in. I interrupted when something crept onto our deck,

“Arlene, you’re not going to believe this, but a Red Fox has just walked up on our deck and is sitting right in front of me looking at me.”

There on the deck was a beautiful Red Fox sitting on its haunches looking at me.  The Fox just sat there, not looking into the room behind me, but staring directly into my eyes.  Quietly I called to Rose to come and see the fox.  She came in time to see the fox slowly turn and walk to the railing.  It stopped, looked at us over its shoulder then jumped to the ground and trotted across the yard to the back fence.

It was then that Rose saw a second fox.

Sure enough another fox was crossing along the back fence. Both foxes met and together jumped the fence and were gone.  We continued our conversation and commented on how strange the appearance of the foxes had been at that specific time.  Then we confirmed our plans to travel to Manitoba for Diane’s funeral and I said goodbye to Arlene.

My grief started in earnest after hanging up the phone.  Diane was a very special person.  She was so full of life, love and talent that it was hard to believe she was gone.  Our home is adorned with Diane’s beautiful artwork.  Remembering all the good times we shared was and will always be easy.

That evening Rose and I were discussing our plans for Diane’s funeral with our children Corrie and Jason.  We were also explaining the appearance of the foxes.  Corrie asked if it might have been Grandpa and Grandma coming to tell us Auntie Diane was okay.  It was a thought that would change our perception of the event forever.  Was it a coincidence that we sometimes referred to dad as “the Old Fox or the Silver Fox”?

The next day, I went to Sudbury to arrange for our trip to Manitoba.  Before leaving I asked Jason to shovel the back deck.  After returning home, Rose told me that Jason had seen something in the back yard.  I went to look and saw the tracks of both foxes still clearly visible in the snow.  Jason was quick to point out the significance of the tracks.

“They form the letter ‘D’ for Diane” he said.

Sure enough, the tracks formed a huge ‘D’ around the pool in our yard.  We phoned Arlene that evening to tell her we would arrive the following afternoon. We also told her about Corrie’s thoughts and Jason’s backyard sighting.

The next day we flew to Winnipeg, rented a car and drove to Brandon.  When we arrived in Brandon the family had gathered at Arlene and Lyle’s home.  Arlene asked if I would tell the family the Fox story.  The tale seemed to have a soothing effect on everyone.  Arlene phoned David, her son, in Comox and in the course of their conversation related the story of the foxes.

That evening Arlene received a call from Comox.  It seemed that David’s wife, Irene, had a friend who was a Haida Native.  Irene’s friend told them that in the Haida culture, the Fox is seen as a messenger and guide to the next world.

Wow!

The fox story seemed to have taken on a life of its own.

The following day, we all went with Diane’s family to Minnedosa for a meeting with the United Church minister.  We were seated in the minister’s office when Rose nudged me and pointed out a picture hanging on the wall behind the desk.  A picture of foxes.  We told the story to the minister; he was quiet for a moment, then told us that it was strange for him to have that picture in his office. His son was in the process of moving and had asked him to store the picture for a short time.

Diane was loved and cherished by so many in the community that the church was packed for her funeral.  Family and friends joined to pay their respects to this lovely lady.  It was bitter cold and windy at the graveside service.  While deeply grieving I think we all expected to see a fox on the horizon watching over us.

The fox did not appear…At least we didn’t see it.The Tale of the Two Foxes